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1 and 2 word conversation starters. June 29, 2015

Posted by Gilbert Kingsley in Evangelism.
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For some of us the summertime can be a bit more relaxed than our usual campus year pace. Nevertheless, as we watch events in our nation and world unfold, it becomes ever more clear that people need Jesus.

But how do I get into spiritual conversations or turn one in a spiritual direction? And not just for us, we want to help those we minister to learn how to share their faith in their own spheres of influence. We call this natural mode evangelism.

My wife, Chris, coaches several who graduated from our ministry and are now in the marketplace. She frequently talks about simple things that they can do to naturally engage in spiritual conversations with those they work with.

“Sometime”

Something as simple as asking a “Sometime” question helps you find out their level of interest and takes the pressure off in the moment.

Questions like

  • Sometime could I share with you the difference Jesus Christ has made in my life?”
  • “I would enjoy hearing more about your spiritual journey sometime.”

make having spiritual conversations more natural.

“I wonder”

This comes from God Space by Doug Pollock. It recognizes the power of good questions and gives you a place to start a conversation.

“I wonder” is a way to find out what others are interested in and can invite them to search for answers. Some “I wonder” statements include.

  • I wonder if, in your quiet moments, you ever stop to think about how you and I got here.”
  • I wonder what role religion has played in shaping in your life.”
  • I wonder how my answer to that question made you feel.”

“I wonder.” opens up dialogue. It communicates respect and can lead others to self-discovery. You could be helping them wrestle with contradictions within their own belief systems.

Jesus often led with questions. In fact, at times he answered a question with His own question. When you ask good wondering questions you demonstrate that you are listening thoughtfully. Such questions come from a desire to better understand the person.

Open-ended questions are best. They promote further dialogue and have the potential to cause others to reflect, possibly leading to their own questioning.

There are three more simple ideas for engaging spiritually with others that Chris uses in her coaching. Next time I’ll tell about raising a faith flag, telling a spiritual story, and sharing your own story, a conversational take on the three-minute testimony.

A Better World Series:

Becoming confident with new skills June 22, 2015

Posted by Gilbert Kingsley in Leadership, Personal Growth, Thought-provoking.
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Suppose someone contacts you from a campus 45 minutes away. They have a small group committed and they want to become Cru.

You could meet with them, but why not consider coaching the leaders over Skype or Google Hangout. Ben Rivera coaches a community college here in town. He visits the campus once a semester, but his regular coaching takes place over hangout with his leaders every two or three weeks.

A few years ago, I sent out a tip on Diskypleship. I remember someone telling me that they tried that, but it didn’t work.

I recently came across an interesting article called, Forecasting Confidence Levels With the Bipolar Learning Graph. It’s an auspicious title about building confidence in a new skill. This may seem heady, but do read on. I think you will appreciate the insight. Here is the graph picturing it.


Tim Ferriss, in his Meta Learning section of The 4 Hour Chef, explains:

“This graph charts out the ups downs of each new thing that someone learns, allowing a person to anticipate how they are going to feel as they learn a new thing. Tim Ferriss uses it in his book to illustrate learning a new language, but the principles can be applied to practically anything.
Whenever someone first begins learning a new subject or skill, there will be a period of accelerated learning that brings a very satisfied feeling of learning in a very short amount of time. This part of the learning is related to the concept discussed in my previous post about the 80/20 rule, in which 80% of the material can be learned in 20% of the time, which explains why so much is learned so quickly in the beginning, making the learner feel very confident.

“Shortly after learning the basics of a new language, skill, or subject, comes a point where a person begins to realize how difficult a new skill actually is, and has run out of the “beginner” material that is simple concepts and memorization. Additionally, at this point, the person realizes that they are no longer learning as quickly as they were before, dropping their confidence and morale a little bit. Regarding languages, this is the point where the person begins creating their own sentences and thoughts in the new language instead of using simple canned responses.

“At some point later, the person’s learning confidence hits rock bottom, and the brain begins neurally adapting whatever it is they are learning, pulling it deeper than simple surface level memorization, working to allow the brain to do less thinking to accomplish the same tasks. It may be muscle memory or habit formation.

“The graph then plateaus out to a place where the person is still using effort to learn, but it feels like they are not learning as quickly as they did in the beginning.

“Then eventually, the person reaches the inflection point, which is casually referred to as the “click”, and the learning becomes easy and accelerates the person to fluency, or proficiency.

“Using this bipolar learning graph, it is easy to predict various levels of confidence as a person learns a new subject, making it easier to prepare for what’s ahead and not get stuck or give up at a low point.”

So Diskypleship may not have worked the first time out, but stick with it and see what comes of it. Who knows, you just might multiply your efforts.

A Better World Series:

Prayer, Care, Share June 15, 2015

Posted by Gilbert Kingsley in Evangelism, Leadership.
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I’ve mentioned before that I am a part of a Curation project, looking at resources essential for a student or volunteer launching and building a movement on their campus.

I want to highlight two today that have come up in our survey of resources.

One is about Prayer, Care, Share. One of our team said that this is a simple way to rally everyone in a movement to personal outreach through simple actions.

I first became aware of Prayer, Care, Share maybe a dozen years ago, when hundreds of campuses made a concerted effort to pray for two weeks, show acts of kindness in expressing care for the next two weeks, and then training in evangelism for the final two weeks leading up to a one day of faith.

Interestingly, as I write this, I am returning from two days of meetings with a group planning a gathering of up to 1 million on the National Mall in Washington DC next summer. Many organizations are rallying around the concept of Reset. We will most likely be hearing more about this effort to call Christians to reset our relationship with the Lord, our personal relationships, our communities, and our nation.

Anyway, during one meeting, someone mentioned Prayer, Care, Share. I thought it was interesting that others also see the value of incorporating prayer and care into their outreach.

One other tool that’s come up in our survey of resources is called Evangelistic Movements: An Outcome Based Analysis.

One of our team found this particularly valuable in analyzing how we are doing in different aspects of evangelism within each movement we lead. We did, however, sense a need for direction on taking the next appropriate steps.

I don’t know if either of these tools will make it on the list of essentials for student and volunteer leaders leading their movements. But I thought they could be helpful for us as we think about our overall evangelism strategy and assessing evangelism effectiveness on our campuses.

A Better World Series:

Behavior June 8, 2015

Posted by Gilbert Kingsley in Personal Growth, Thought-provoking.
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“As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received.” Ephesians 4:1 NIV

The Christian life is first about what God has done for us. When we receive His gifts, our lives change. Then our behavior changes. It’s important to get that order correct. We “be”, then we “do.”

Biblically, we are justified, and then we are sanctified. We read about bearing fruit, walking in the Spirit, created for good works, etc. Those happen as our identity is lived out.

There is a lot that could be said about the spiritual aspects of forming godly habits—memorizing Scripture, meditation, the disciplines, putting off the old and putting on the new, setting up accountability, etc., etc.

But even social scientists recognize the value of and effort that goes into behavior change. I was sitting in a session recently where the presenters talked about adding certain skills to what people are already doing.

They referred to B. J. Fogg’s Behavior Model. He is a behavior scientist, who founded the Persuasive Tech Lab at Stanford University, focusing on using technology to change behaviors in positive ways.

Fogg’s model says that for a change in behavior to occur, motivation, ability and a trigger converge at same time. If the desired behavior does not occur, then one of those is missing.

His model looks like this.
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The more difficult the ability sought, the higher the motivation necessary. Fogg suggests breaking them down into simple actions. There is a whole lot more to say about this. But you can read more at Fogg’s Behavior Model and the Behavior Grid.

What are some behaviors or activities that you have been trying to foster in your staff or students? I can think of some higher order ministry activities that can take work in developing. Here are a few:

  • launching a new movement,
  • ministering cross culturally,
  • coaching from a distance,
  • building relationships with those who are personally challenging, and
  • preparing students graduating into the marketplace.

I would be interested in how you provide motivation and triggers for action.

Others tips in the “Thinking about a better world” series.

Recognizing arbitrary advantages. June 1, 2015

Posted by Gilbert Kingsley in Leadership, Thought-provoking.
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I just finished reading Outliers: The Story of Success, by Malcolm Gladwell. It’s been out for several years. So, yeah, I am behind!

Outliers is a fascinating look at both the intrinsic qualities, as well as the environmental opportunities that set high-achievers apart from the rest. While it is a story about the best and brightest, it’s really more about the world we live in offering a “patchwork” of breaks, opportunities, and “arbitrary advantages”, and how some better avail themselves of those advantages.

While Gladwell asks if our world could be different from the one we’ve settled for if we understood those arbitrary advantages, I wonder if there are things we have front-loaded into our ministry that mitigate against our being able to accomplish the vision God has given us.

The first story Gladwell mentions is the Major Junior A hockey league in Canada. “By the time players reach their midteens, the very best of the very best hockey players are channeled into an elite league known as the Major Junior A.” p.16. We might think that it was skill alone that got them there. Gladwell would say, “Not so fast.”

At about eight or nine years of age, when players are getting into the sport, there is a key age cutoff of January 1. Those whose birthdays are closest to that cutoff have a several month growth advantage over those born later in the year. At that age, those 6-12 months of growth make a huge difference.

What Gladwell noticed was that the majority of the best high school players had birthdays in January and February. What’s more, in other sports and in other countries, elite players had birthdays during the first quarter after the cutoff.

“A boy who turns ten on January 2, then, could be playing alongside someone who doesn’t turn ten until the end of the year—and at that age, in preadolescence, a twelve-month gap in age represents an enormous difference in physical maturity…coaches start to select players for the traveling “rep” squad—the all-star teams—at the age of nine or ten, and of course they are more likely to view as talented the bigger and more coordinated players, who have had the benefit of critical extra months of maturity…He gets better coaching, and his teammates are better, and he plays fifty or seventy-five games a season instead of twenty games a season like those left behind in the “house” league, and he practices twice as much…In the beginning, his advantage isn’t so much that he is inherently better but only that he is a little older. But by the age of thirteen or fourteen, with the benefit of better coaching and all that extra practice under his belt, he really is better…” p.24,25.

Hockey is just a sport after all, but Gladwell observes that the same age advantage shows up in things of more consequence, like education. “The small initial advantage that the child born in the early part of the year…persists. It locks children into patterns of achievement and underachievement, encouragement and discouragement, that stretch on and on for years…” p.28.

For the sake of time, and your continued attention!, I won’t go into his findings from Trends in International Math and Science Study. But they mirror those outlined above. The researchers concluded, “So, early on, if we look at young kids, in kindergarten and first grade, the teachers are confusing maturity with ability. And they put the older kids in the advanced stream, where they learn better skills; and the next year, because they are in the higher groups, they do even better; and the next year, the same thing happens, and they do even better again.” p.29.

(Full disclosure. The cutoff for school for me was February 1, and I was born February 18. I grew up thinking I was just a bit smarter than others in my class. I experienced advantages throughout. When our boys were starting school the cutoff was August 1. We kept each of them out of school for one more year to give them an age advantage on their peers.)

But I mention all of this to ask this question. Are there arbitrary criteria that we have front-loaded into our ministry, that unintentionally determine the trajectory of those who get involved? It might be an interesting exercise for our teams to consider.

I can think of three areas in which this might be the case.

  1. Our language, processes, and environment are friendlier to those in the majority culture and, unfortunately, present challenges for those who are ethnic minority.
  2. Our ministry is effective for the traditional student and for the traditional way we train and develop leaders. But those who are entrepreneurial and enterprising, the pioneer going after new places, and those who look to minister to the marginalized, can feel marginalized themselves.
  3. For 23 years, I have done distance coaching. We absolutely need more high school and college distance coaches. There are far more leaders out there who want our expertise and encouragement than our ministry is currently servicing. But there is something about our ministry that says it is more satisfying to sit down with a person over a cup of coffee at Starbucks than coaching a leader impacting their campus over Skype, and doing that again in multiple places? Our ministry values both “growing where we are” and “going where we aren’t”. Can we add to the personal satisfaction of impacting a life, the strategic-ness of multiplied touches over a distance?

It is beyond the scope of this piece to consider root causes or possible solutions. I raise these issues to cause us to consider how we might effect change in order to make the greatest possible impact for Jesus Christ. Let me know what you think.

My Summer Series.

What have we lost? May 25, 2015

Posted by Gilbert Kingsley in Communication, Leadership, Trusting God.
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There is an interesting story in 2 Chronicles about finding the Book of the Law in the temple. Young King Josiah did right in the sight of the Lord. He sought after God, made it a point to remove the idolatrous places in Judah and Jerusalem, and instructed that the temple be repaired.

It was during those repairs that the high priest “found the Book of the Law that had been given through Moses.” 2 Chronicles 34:14 NIV. When they read the book to King Josiah, they were fearful about what they read.

Does it seem curious to you that the most significant book identifying an entire people could be lost? But not only was the book lost, they had forgotten its contents.

I happen to be a part of a “curation” project, sifting through materials that our ministry has used over the last 10, 20 or even 30 years. Now it is nothing like discovering the lost book of the law, and we do live in an information age unparalleled in history, but it does seem like some of the information I’ve come across was incredibly helpful at the time and we have since forgotten about it.

One such resource was Clarifying Questions that I mentioned a couple of weeks ago. Some of those questions may not be helpful today. But there were some that I remember asking a long time ago that I had forgotten about.

Over the summer, I will focus on two things in these tips. 1. Bring back to our attention resources that we might have forgotten about, and 2. Challenge some of our traditional thinking about ministry.

Could it be that some of what we do in ministry borders more on “the traditions of men” rather than the “book of the law”? I welcome your thoughts on either topic.

The Most Important Week of the Year. May 18, 2015

Posted by Gilbert Kingsley in Discipleship, Evangelism, Leadership, Planning.
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This, traditionally, is my Coaching Tip that closes out the campus year. I try to operate by the last thing said in the Spring is the most important thing in the Fall. However, next week, I am beginning a summer series of tips. Tune in next week at this time to learn more.

If you have received my tips for more than a year, you will no doubt have seen this one. These are Mike Woodruff’s thoughts on having a strong start in the Fall.

I like its focus on planning ahead, being intentional about our efforts and maximizing the single most critical week of the campus year. Not everything applies in our missional context, but this article speaks to the urgency of the first week on campus and the reality of how quickly a student determines allegiances on campus.

“Every group I’ve studied has followed roughly the same pattern.  In fact, with only two exceptions, I have never seen a campus ministry grow after the first month of the year.”

Off And Running by Mike Woodruff

Three weeks into the Fall quarter finds most students in a rut.  They’ve picked their classes, joined their clubs and scheduled every waking minute between now and Thanksgiving.  Some have carved out time for “significant others,” most will have set aside entire weekends for football, pizza and parties, and a few will even have blocked out an hour or two for class.  But by the end of the first month it’s all in stone.  And if attending your large group meeting isn’t in their schedule by then, there is little hope it will be there come May.

During my 8 years with a church-based campus ministry in Washington State, I watched student involvement at our large group meetings climb from 150 to 700.  With the exception of one small hiccup up, all of that growth occurred in the Fall.  If we ended Spring quarter with 200 students, we started back in September with 350.  That May we’d be down around 300-far from growing, every group seems to lose numbers over the year-but by the next Fall we started with 450.  We grew by starting strong.  Every other group I’ve studied has followed roughly the same pattern.  In fact, with only two exceptions, I have never seen a campus ministry grow after the first month of the year.  And that means that if you’re serious about expanding your influence you need to begin with a shout.  If ever there was a time for a home run, it’s the first meeting of the Fall quarter.

Be Ready:
 Of course, starting strong is hard to do because first meetings are full of early season mistakes. The worship team is rusty, the microphones are lost and no one can find a three-prong adaptor to plug in the overhead.  But it doesn’t have to be that way.  Use the summer to jump start the Fall.  Put summer students to work preparing publicity and drama.  Work on your first message during June and July so it’s one of the strongest you give.  Ask the worship team to come back to campus a few days early for a planning and preparation retreat.  Or hire the worship band from a local church to help you begin with a bang.  Hold a dress rehearsal the night before.  Make it a party and buy pizza for the whole team.

Additionally, apply the popular business philosophy of continuous improvement. Keep a separate file folder just for the events that occur during the first few weeks of the Fall quarter, and as those events unfold critique them.  What could we do next year?  How could we have reached out more effectively to freshman?  Should we have started the meeting earlier? Later? Gone shorter? Longer? By continually updating this file-technically called an After Action Report-you can insure that your kick-offs get better and better.

Be Visible:
  If you normally meet in a church or a room that is the least bit hard to find move your first meeting.  We picked one of the most visible buildings in the middle of campus even though that meant competing with a back-to-school kick off dance right outside the door. If your school has an activity fair where you can advertise, set up the best booth and offer the most free food. I’d suggest spending up to seventy-five percent of your advertising budget for the entire year on your first couple of meetings-and be creative.  Anybody can do posters.  Try banners, balloons, sandwich boards, flyers, blackboard blitzes and, of course, personal invitations. We sent out letters to all returning students welcoming them back to school and inviting them to our first meeting.  The invitation includes the who, what, where, when, and why of every event we have planned during the first week, and ends with me egging them to invite anyone and everyone they know to our very first meeting.  If they will send me the name of someone they’d like invited, I’ll send them a letter or give them a call.  We also make a special effort to reach freshman by handing out lots of flyers around the freshman dorms and in their registration lines. I know several Christian groups whose members come back to campus early just so they can help freshman move into the dorms.  They find that by being one of the first friendly faces a freshman meets it’s easy to form friendships that might later lead to a chance to share the Gospel or invite someone to a meeting.

The Sardine Effect:
  During the 1960 presidential campaign, John F. Kennedy’s advance man picked small high school gymnasiums for their political rallies.  He didn’t want the nicest auditorium to meet in; he wanted a place they could pack.  We’ve done the same. In fact, the room we now use seats 150 fewer students than we expect.  The fire marshal hates us, but the energy we create is incredible.

Pray, pray and pray:
  But not right before the meeting.  The last place you want your leaders just before the start of the first meeting is locked up in a room with you.  They should be out inviting friends, greeting early arrivals or picking up newcomers who need a ride.  Hold your prayer meeting earlier in the week or earlier in the day. That frees everyone up to deal with last minute headaches and mingle with people.

Force Fellowship:
  Helping freshmen feel welcome is one of the biggest challenges you’ll face; especially since upper-class students all gravitate to friends they haven’t seen in three months.  Place greeters at the door, plead with your Bible study leaders to befriend lost freshmen and end the meeting by asking people to find two people they don’t know and introduce themselves. I also explained that everyone-including our staff-feels like everybody here knows everybody else-except them.  The bigger the group the more of an issue this becomes and the more proactively you need to deal with it.

The Meeting:
  First meetings are not for regular attendees.  Serve food, skip inside jokes, explain all terms, don’t sing any songs that you do not have the words for and otherwise bend over backwards to make visitors feel welcome.  Screen all announcements and any drama to be certain they are done well.  Seekers and nominal Christians are more likely to check you out at the beginning of the year-actually, most everyone is there to check out the opposite sex.  This is a point I make during the beginning of my talk because it’s guaranteed to prompt lots of nervous laughter-so adjust worship and your first message. Be light. Be user friendly. Be funny. Be short. Your goal is to get them to sign up for a Bible study and come back next week, not explain the finer points of the hypostatic union.

“… the first 168 hours after a student sets foot on campus represents the most strategic time for them to get plugged into your fellowship.”

Follow Up:
  Life long friendships are often formed in the first few days of college, so cram as many opportunities for bonding into that week as you can.  We held a picnic the afternoon after our first meeting and sponsored a social event that weekend. Additionally, our staff worked around the clock placing people in small group Bible studies.  Our goal was that everyone who signed up for a study was contacted within twenty-four hours by his or her study leader.  That means at least one all-nighter for our staff, but it was worth it.  We wanted Bible Study leaders to be able to spend time with the members of their study during the first week.  They could meet with them at the weekend social, walk with them to church that first Sunday and sit with them at the next large group meeting.

Was all of this work easy?  Not hardly.  Trying to jump-start a college ministry is a lot like trying to kick start an aircraft carrier.  At least two or three people will nearly die of exhaustion.  But someone has to do it and without question the first 168 hours after a student sets foot on campus represent the most strategic time for them to get plugged into your fellowship.  Plan now to begin with a bang.

Tips for ending the campus year well
Ending the Year Well
March/April to do list
Transitioning to new leadership
Planning the first six weeks
Summer Survival
Summer Connect
Addressing Possible Leadership Holes

Six Principles of Relating to Adolescents May 14, 2015

Posted by Gilbert Kingsley in High school students, Leadership.
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Today, as I write this, I learned that 704 individuals and groups have registered for Summer Connect. 173 of those applicants, 1 out of 4, indicated interested in reaching out to high school students while they are home for the summer.

Knowing how much those under 18 look up to college students and how responsive they are to the Gospel, that’s awesome!

But there are some things we need to know in reaching out to teenagers. Sensitive and legal considerations come into play in working with minors.

With that, let me share six principles of relating to adolescents that our high school ministry would want us to know.

SIX PRINCIPLES OF RELATING TO ADOLESCENTS

  1. YOU MUST ASSUME A LEADERSHIP ROLE.

Your relationship is not a peer-to-peer relationship. Due to the differences in age, experience and maturity, you must provide the leadership. It can be like an older brother or older sister or as an adult friend. Sometimes it’s much like a teacher-student or coach-student friendship.

As the leader it’s very important for you to be a positive model of maturity. You want to be real, but not if it means stooping to a lower level of mature behavior. High school students are very idealistic. They can become disillusioned easily if you appear inconsistent or immature.

On a college campus, staff and students can disciple each other more as peers. But in a high school ministry, the staff must provide more leadership in the relationship.

  1. FIND WAYS THEY CAN GIVE TO YOU. 

With all the input you are having in their life, it’s easy for the relationship to become somewhat unbalanced. You are helping them in many ways, but they also feel a need to contribute in some way to your life. Figure out what they can do to help you. Think creatively. They can help fix your car, teach you a new sport, help you with a hobby, or give you advice. In every case, your leadership is enhanced when there is balance. It helps to have give and take in the relationship.

  1. DON’T BECOME TOO DEPENDENT ON EACH OTHER. 

It sounds silly, but it happens. Obviously, your best friends need to be those your own age. You can’t expect high school students to meet all your friendship needs. And you can’t rely on your relationship with them – or ministry to them – to build your self worth.

Students can easily become dependent on us. Don’t ever control or smother their growth. They must become independently dependent on Christ. Be sure they are hearing from a variety of godly men and women.

Also, be careful about crushes that can sometimes develop. Watch how you relate with students of the opposite sex. It’s easy for them to grow fond of you and become emotionally attached. Our ministry’s standard operating procedure is for men to disciple guys and women to disciple girls. Serious counseling should also be turned over to a staff member of the same sex.

  1. BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR TRANSPARENCY. 

Imagine how you would have felt if one of the adults you admired had shared too much of himself with you. When we are overly vulnerable with young people, they don’t know how to handle it. Their idealism and lack of experience make it hard for them to understand the more intimate aspects of adult life. Be honest, be real, but be careful.

  1. BE AWARE OF HOW THINGS APPEAR TO OTHERS. 

Keeping kids out too late, telling parents you are going one place and then going someplace else, exaggerated physical affection, or even being alone with a student of the opposite sex can communicate things to other people that would make them suspicious of the relationship. 1 Thessalonians 5:22 says to avoid all appearance of evil. Ask yourself: “Could this cause parents, an administrator, or any other students to distrust me in any way?”

  1. GET TO KNOW THEIR FAMILY. 

Did you have any significant relationships with adults whom your parents had never met? Obviously, knowing the family will enhance your ministry to the student, as well as give you an opportunity to minister to other family members. It’s important to establish a trusting relationship with them.

Do you want to go further?

Clarifying questions May 10, 2015

Posted by Gilbert Kingsley in Evangelism.
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I’m a part of a project this summer whose purpose is to compile the essential and best resources someone would use in growing a ministry from one person to a win/build/send movement.

These resources will then be put on a phone app, readily accessible for our student/volunteer/faculty leader. Each of us are looking over documents new and old and on lots of websites.

I don’t know if this will make the cut, but here are some questions that several of us over 25 years ago in New England compiled to help us in evangelism. This could be helpful for your students as they have Gospel conversations at home this summer.

Clarifying questions

A. Questions for breaking through barriers:

  • Do you consider yourself a truth seeker?
  • What’s your spiritual background?
  • Have you ever read the Bible?
  • Have your views on religion changed since you started college?  How?
  • What do you think the main message of Biblical Christianity is?
  • Why do you think you feel the way you do toward Jesus Christ and his message of love and forgiveness?
  • What is your philosophy of life based on?
  • Do you believe what you’ve been brought up with?
  • Do you think Christianity is relevant to your life?
  • If Christ is who He claimed to be, how would that affect your life?
  • What are you living for?  What do you value most?
  • If your questions could be answered in a way that would satisfy you, would you believe in Jesus?

Kennedy questions

1. Ask:  “If you died today, do you know for sure you’d go to heaven?
2. Or ask: “If you died and stood before God and He asked you ‘Why should I let you into Heaven?’ What would you say?”

B.  Questions to use while presenting the gospel:

  • What is sin?
  • Do you believe this definition of sin?
  • End of Principle 2: If this were all the Bible had to say about our relationship with God, what would you conclude?
  • What is a wage?
  • What is your concept of spiritual death?
  • Why did Jesus die?
  • It’s documented that there were more than 500 people who saw Jesus alive after he died. If this event went to trial and 500 witnesses were marched in, what would the jury decide? Is this eyewitness testimony enough to prove Christ’s resurrection beyond reasonable doubt?
  • What about Buddha or Mohammed? Did any other religious leader claim to be God? Did they overcome death?

C. Questions for bringing someone to a point of decision:

  • Who are you trusting to pay for your sin?
  • What would happen if you prayed this prayer?
  • What’s holding you back from making this decision? Why is____________ significant enough to keep you from deciding?
  • If ambivalent ask, “Do you understand the significance of this decision?
  • Why would anyone say this is the most important decision you’ll make?
  • Go to 1 John 5, then back to the circles.
  • How many times would a person need to make this decision?
  • How do we get Christ into our life?
  • What will Christ do if you pray this prayer?
  • What would happen to you if you were to die, according to your beliefs?

Some of these questions may be more comfortable than others. But hopefully, some can help us get to the heart of what others are thinking.

Tips for ending the campus year well
Ending the Year Well
March/April to do list
Transitioning to new leadership
Planning the first six weeks
Summer Survival
Summer Connect
Addressing Possible Leadership Holes

Only one number you need to know. May 4, 2015

Posted by Gilbert Kingsley in Launching.
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Wherever you go this summer, you will probably run into high school or college students that you wish were connected to a movement, or who you believe could start one.

All you need to know is “Call Pat” at 1-800-678- LINC (5462).

If a local team doesn’t have the capacity to service requests to launch a new movement, there are teams who can launch and build from a distance. So, whether the person asking is a high school, college, graduate, ethnic, or international student, an athlete, or someone in the military, Pat can connect them to someone who can help them get connected or start a ministry.

Years ago, Mike Tilley held up a sheet of paper representing a request to start a ministry on someone’s campus. He said we used to get hundreds of such requests a year. After a pause, he slowly wadded it up and tossed it in the wastebasket. That was our answer then. Thankfully, not today.

All you need to do is see yourself like the woman at the well who said, “Come see a man who told me everything I ever did…” (John 4:29a, NIV) She pointed them to the One who could help and many Samaritans believed that day. (v. 39).

If you have read this far, would you take one moment to pray this prayer: “Lord Jesus, lead me to one person this summer whom you have raised up to start a ministry on their campus that I may pass on to those who can help them.”

It may sound like a cliché, but it’s not. Pat is standing by at 1-800-678-LINC (5462).

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